HEY BESTIE: My colleagues have found my TikTok dance account, it is a little racy with dances and now I’m worried they won’t take me seriously. What should I do? I’m so embarrassed.
Welcome to the world of social media!
Having family, friends or even colleagues stumble upon your social media account was not something we even had to worry about a few simple years ago. Now, it’s a completely different story.
There is such a HUGE range of information and accounts out on social media platforms at the moment from hilarious comedy and parody to beyond explicit.
A TikTok Dance account sounds fun. An opportunity to be silly, creative, athletic and engaging.
However, from what you’ve said, it also sounds like you are embarrassed or maybe even self-conscious about what others, in this case, colleagues, might think of you.
First and foremost: other people’s opinions of you is exactly that, their opinions, which should have no bearing on how awesome you choose to be.
If embarrassment is your main concern, there’s some great news and some great strategies. The great news is that at some point, we have all been — or will be — embarrassed by something. You aren’t alone.
Embarrassment makes people feel uncomfortable or even self-conscious.
Feelings experienced when embarrassed are often heightened if you are more prone to anxiety and long-term difficulties in dealing with embarrassment can lead to other mental health challenges and so it might be worthwhile talking to a mental health professional if it gets to that point.
There are, however, some great strategies to help you shake off the embarrassment which include:
- Be kind to yourself
- Confront the situation – you might even laugh about it yourself
- Stay calm
- Take a deep breath
- Consider what you’ve learned
- Laugh it off
One of the best things that you can do is to remain calm and stay grounded and confident with who you are.
You created those Tik Toks – be proud of them, don’t shy away because someone may say or think something. J
Just think of how many people have made mini-fortunes on social media by being authentic, being themselves and having a go at something – whether it be dance, comedy, singing, or trying new foods.
Who knows, you might just be the next person to land an interview on a national TV program or who gets invited to do an amazing collaboration.
If you genuinely did not want anyone to find out about you or what you are posting, then consider not showing your face in the posts or being around anything which would identify you.
You have made a choice and being confident about that choice is empowering because after all, everyone deserves the ability to be authentic, confident, and not judged.
Amanda Lambros is a sexologist and relationship coach with almost two decades of experience who takes pride in her “no b-s” approach to solving your problems. She is also a certified speaking professional and has written several books on relationships, health and business which have sold more than 150,000 copies.
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